Is Porn Bad For You And Should You Stop Watching it?

Is Porn Bad For You And Should You Stop Watching it?
I used to masturbate sometimes up to eight times a day.
At the start it was just using my mind, but quickly porn became one of my nasty habits.
You see it started with vanilla porn, the kind that’s all fake and usually starts with a plumber and a housewife.
But soon I got desensitized, I could no longer get turned on by watching normal sex, I almost felt numb to it and I needed something naughtier.
At first that was amateur porn, then threesomes, then crazy fantasy stuff. But every time I’d end up getting bored and before I knew it I’d became numb. Not just to porn, but to real relationships and even people.
I soon developed a completely fake vision of what sex was and if I’m honest I don’t think any type of sexual interaction could have satisfied me at this point in my life.
I was just chasing the high of that sexual satisfaction and I’d practically convinced myself that it was fine and normal to be more intertwined with fake sex than real.
And I’m ashamed to say it but at this point in my life I probably did view people as sexual objects.
Instead of seeing a person for who they were and trying to make any type of rational connection, I’d just be thinking about sex and my sexual tendencies towards them.
I mean what the FUCK!
Had it really come to this?
The sad part was that I can’t even remember thinking it was wrong and it wasn’t till I got more in-touch with myself that I realized I was objectifying people.
Now nobody can solely blame porn for their objectifying tendencies towards other human beings, it’s like blaming chocolate for being fat.
Yes it’s a factor, but it’s not the source.
You see porn didn’t cause this, but it did magnify it.
Just like wine doesn’t make say stupid things, it just heightens the probability that you will.
So, I’m going to use this article to tell you more about my story, give you insight into how I stopped watching porn and help you decide if porn watching is for you.
What Porn Really Messed Up for Me
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MY MIND’S REWARD SYSTEM GOT F**KED AND HERE’S HOW: Your body releases chemicals like dopamine and serotonin when you increase your chances of survival and reproduction probability.
So when you watch porn your brain thinks it has hit the jackpot of reproduction potential, seeing tons of naked people ready for sex… When really you’re just sat behind a computer screen jerking it.
This is why your body becomes desensitized, lazy and unambitious, sometimes even filled with negative emotions like guilt, sadness and the feeling of being alone.
You see your body only has so much of these chemicals at any one time and once they’re gone we experience a huge low.
Not only that but our body doesn’t feel a need for us to change because in theory we’re getting all the probability of reproduction we need in order to pass our genetics down, making it harder to say no to xbox and yes to creating a business, starting a diet and making a real life change.

I STARTED SEXUALLY OBJECTIFYING PEOPLE: I wish I could deny it, but porn changed the way I looked, acted and felt around people, mainly women.
Before I quit porn (The first time) I’d always see women as SEX, when I touched, talked and even just saw.
And now that I’ve stopped watching porn and become aware of objectification, I find that I enjoy connecting with women and men on a much deeper level.
I also find there’s a big self destructive weight lifted off my shoulders and since this I’ve found socializing, meeting new people and creating real friends much easier and if I’m completely honest much more fulfilling.

I GAINED ONE OF THEM UNREALISTIC VIEWS OF SEX: Look I’ve never been the guy who saw something in porn and thought “I need to try that“.
But porn did contribute to the fake self doubts that I’m not at the social standard of what’s deemed sexually acceptable (good in bed)…
…Why can’t I last hours of straight sex?
…Is she faking?
…Why is she not cumming from penetration.
…Why can’t I make her cum multiple times every time we have sex.
Sound familiar?
It turns out, me, you, and loads of other people have these exact fears and problems and even though porn isn’t the indefinite cause, it does contribute to this fake, disconnected look at what sex really is.
And could make anyone become outcome dependant every time they have sex.
And I mean where’s the fun in that?

MADE ME DISINTERESTED IN SEX: I started enjoying porn watching more than actually having sex.
But is Masturbation as Bad as Porn?
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As someone who’s been a masturbation madman and then later become a teatotaller who regularly has months without masturbation.
I’ve seen both worlds, and in my experience neither is ideal
When I masturbated everyday I become tired, unfocused, lazy and even a little sad…
…And then when I don’t masturbate I feel fantastic, but there’s a lack of sexual release that makes it hard to be fulfilled.
So I personally believe in moderation, having control over when you masturbate, being more conservative of your sexual energy and then using that energy to achieve more fulfilling things inside your life.
But, age is a big factor.
If I was 17 again I wouldn’t have changed my masturbation habits, one because my sex drive was way to high and my commitment wouldn’t of matched it.
And two, because I had to learn and make the most of my body. Plus, I was 17 and had an extremely high libido.
Masturbation is nothing like porn, you don’t have to cut it out, but I do recommend at least experimenting with a 30 days no masturbation challenge.
To just see where it takes you and what you learn about your own sexual being.
Should You Try A NOFAP Masturbation Detox?
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When it was finally time for me to give it up I tried a masturbation detox…
…Where I’d stop all porn and sexual stimulation for 30 days.
Easy I thought… Turns out I was wrong.
One thing I learned quickly was how advertising/marketing makes it almost impossible to avoid porn, from online ads of Russian girlfriends, to weird TV commercials with girls orgasmicly moaning in the shower.
As difficult as this made it I soldiered on and have now partaken in more than a few masturbation cleanses.
They really help me rewire my body and have kept me in tune with my sensual side which has significantly changed my sexual abilities for the better.
And now it seems every time I do a masturbation detox the benefits become even greater, from more energy, to better creative focus and even more enjoyment from my work.
So If you feel like you’re ready to try it for yourself and see if it benefits your lifestyle you can head over to NoFap and get more information.
Click here to learn more about masturbation detox…
Word of caution: When doing these detox challenges it can become very easy to go the other way and feel overly guilty when you finally allow yourself to masturbate.
Now, I believe that either ejaculating too much or not enough can be bad, so in your journey just remember that variety and balance is the key to good results.
Is Porn Bad and Should You Stop Watching it?
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What works for me, may not work for you… Many people can watch porn semi regularly without the negative effects I got and if you’re one of them people, who am I to say it’s wrong?
I’m just here to tell you my opinion and offer you my experience on how porn negatively affected my life in order to share and hopefully help a few people in the same position I was.
So it’s really up to you to test, experiment and see what works best for you and your lifestyle.

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